No Strings Attached Dating in Abbotsford BC: The 2026 Guide to NSA Casual Connections

Hey. I’m Logan. Born and raised in Abbotsford – yeah, that Abbotsford, British Columbia – and somehow I never left. Sex researcher, eco-dating weirdo, and now a writer for the AgriDating project over on agrifood5.net. I study how people connect. Bodies, bellies, berries, the whole messy buffet. Been around. Made mistakes. Learned what makes a touch feel like home.

So you’re curious about no strings attached dating in Abbotsford. Maybe you’re new to the Fraser Valley. Maybe you’re tired of swiping through the same 47 faces on Tinder. Maybe you just want to get laid without the whole “meet my parents” conversation. Whatever brought you here – welcome. You’re in the right place.

Let me be brutally honest with you right now: Abbotsford is not Vancouver. It’s not even Langley. This is a city of about 153,500 people[reference:0], with a median age hovering around 39[reference:1], and a reputation for being one of the most socially conservative places in British Columbia[reference:2]. Nearly 30% of the population is South Asian, and family values run deep[reference:3]. Casual sex? No strings attached? The public narrative says it doesn’t happen here.

That narrative is wrong.

It happens. A lot. Just quietly. Behind closed doors. Under the radar of church potlucks and Punjabi weddings. And that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about today.

1. What does “no strings attached” dating actually mean in Abbotsford in 2026?

Short answer: In Abbotsford, NSA dating means sexual or romantic encounters without commitment, expectations of exclusivity, or traditional relationship milestones – negotiated explicitly or implicitly between consenting adults, often facilitated through dating apps or casual social settings.

Let’s unpack that because the definition shifts depending on who you ask and where you’re standing – literally.

In theory, no strings attached is simple: sex without the baggage. No meet-the-friends brunches. No anniversary anxiety. No “where is this going?” conversations over cold coffee. Just two (or more) people enjoying each other’s bodies and then going back to their separate lives. Clean. Transactional. Efficient.

In practice, in Abbotsford? It’s messier. The “strings” here aren’t just emotional – they’re cultural, religious, and logistical. You’re not just navigating someone’s attachment style. You’re navigating their parents’ expectations, their community’s gossip network, and their own internalized shame about wanting something casual in a city that publicly condemns it.

Here’s something I’ve learned after a decade of researching connection in this valley: the most conservative places often have the most active – and most secretive – casual sex scenes. The gap between what people say and what they do? It’s a canyon. And NSA dating lives right at the bottom of that canyon.

Think about it. Where do people go when they can’t be seen? Apps. Anonymous platforms. Discreet meetups. The Abbotsford casual dating market exists almost entirely in the digital shadows – and that’s both its strength and its biggest problem.

One more thing: “no strings attached” isn’t the same as “no emotions.” You can catch feelings in an NSA arrangement. You can get hurt. You can also have the most liberating sexual experiences of your life. The difference is whether everyone involved is honest about what they want – and what they don’t want.

I’ll say it plain: most people here are terrible at that honesty. They say they want NSA but really want validation. They say they want a relationship but just want regular sex without commitment. The mismatch is where the disaster happens.

2. Is no strings attached dating legal in Canada and BC?

Short answer: Yes, selling sexual services is legal in Canada, but buying them is not under the Protection of Communities and Exploited Persons Act (Bill C-36). For non-commercial NSA dating between consenting adults – perfectly legal, regardless of what your grandmother thinks.

This is where people get confused, and honestly, the confusion is understandable. Canadian sex work laws are weird. Let me break it down.

The exchange of sexual services between consenting adults is legal. Full stop[reference:4]. What’s illegal is purchasing those services, receiving material benefits from the purchase of sexual services, or communicating for the purpose of offering sexual services in public[reference:5]. See the gymnastics? Selling is fine. Buying is a crime. Advertising someone else’s sexual services is illegal[reference:6].

So where does that leave NSA dating? If no money changes hands, you’re fine. Two people meeting for casual sex – legal. Three people? Still legal. A whole group? Also legal, as long as everyone’s consenting and no one’s paying anyone for it.

Escort agencies? Grey area. Agencies that provide “social companionship” might operate legally, but if they’re facilitating sexual services for payment, they risk prosecution under sections 286.2 and 286.4 of the Criminal Code[reference:7][reference:8]. Most legitimate agencies in the Fraser Valley know this and operate accordingly – meaning they’re very careful about what they promise and who they connect.

For the average person reading this, the legal takeaway is simple: don’t pay for sex. Not because I’m judging you – I’m not – but because it’s illegal to purchase sexual services in Canada, and enforcement in Abbotsford, while sporadic, does happen. And don’t advertise sexual services for someone else. Beyond that? Your private sex life is your business.

One more thing: public sex. Don’t. Even if you think no one’s watching. Abbotsford has by-laws, and “indecent acts” in public spaces carry penalties. Take it indoors.

3. Where do people find no strings attached connections in Abbotsford?

Short answer: Dating apps dominate – Tinder, Pure, Feeld, AdultFriendFinder – followed by classifieds sites like Locanto and MarketLister, with in-person singles events and concerts providing organic opportunities for casual meetups.

Alright, let’s get practical. You want to know where the NSA action actually is. I’ve mapped this out over years of talking to people in this city, and the landscape shifts constantly. Here’s the current state of play in 2026.

Dating Apps: The Primary Channel

Tinder is still the king of casual hookups in Abbotsford, hands down[reference:9]. Despite its rebranding efforts toward serious dating, locals use it for one-night stands and casual flings constantly. The trick is being upfront in your bio – “not looking for anything serious” or “casual only” – because the biggest complaint I hear is mismatched expectations. Nothing worse than showing up for a hookup and realizing the other person has already picked out baby names.

Pure has gained serious traction in 2026, especially among the 25-35 crowd[reference:10]. It’s designed for anonymous, ephemeral connections – your profile disappears after an hour, and the app emphasizes location-based matching. For Abbotsford, this works well because it reduces the risk of running into someone you know at Superstore. You can be explicit about what you want without your profile lingering forever.

Feeld is growing slowly but steadily, particularly among people interested in threesomes, polyamory, or kink. Abbotsford’s Feeld user base is still small – maybe a few hundred active users – but it’s high-quality. People on Feeld actually talk about boundaries, consent, and desires before meeting. Refreshing, honestly.

AdultFriendFinder and Fling.com have active Abbotsford members, though the user interface feels like it hasn’t been updated since 2012[reference:11][reference:12]. Still, if you’re over 40 and want direct, no-nonsense casual connections, these platforms work. The demographic skews older – 45+ – and the conversations are refreshingly straightforward.

Bumble and Hinge? Mostly people looking for relationships. Can you find a hookup there? Sure. But you’ll be filtering through a lot of “looking for my person” profiles first[reference:13].

Classifieds and Personals: The Alternative Channel

When Craigslist shut down its personals section in 2018, Abbotsford’s casual encounters scene took a hit. But replacements emerged. Locanto has a active “Men Looking for Women” section in Abbotsford[reference:14] – about 27 ads at the time I’m writing this. Quality varies wildly, but some real people are there.

MarketLister’s “Alternative Encounters” category explicitly includes casual interactions alongside friendship and dating[reference:15]. The platform feels less sketchy than some alternatives, though always verify before meeting anyone from a classifieds site. Always.

Doublelist functions as the direct spiritual successor to Craigslist personals – free, location-based, and explicitly for casual connections[reference:16]. Abbotsford has a small but consistent Doublelist presence, particularly in the “men seeking women” and “women seeking men” categories.

In-Person Events: The Organic Channel

Here’s where things get interesting. Abbotsford’s social calendar for spring and summer 2026 is packed, and smart singles are using these events as hookup hunting grounds.

The INSOMNIA Festival at TradeX on April 4, 2026, featuring David Guetta, Oliver Heldens, James Hype, and W&W[reference:17] – this is your prime opportunity for meeting people open to casual connections. EDM crowds are notoriously hookup-friendly. The energy, the music, the late hours. Be safe, but be open.

The Abbotsford Tulip Festival runs from April 13 to May 3, 2026, at Lakeland Farms[reference:18]. Sounds wholesome, right? It is. But thousands of people wander through those fields every day during peak bloom, and the social vibe is surprisingly flirty. I’ve heard more stories of meet-cutes turning into same-day hookups at the tulip festival than I expected when I started tracking this.

Speed dating events at Trading Post Brewing and other venues continue to draw singles in the 35+ category[reference:19]. While these events are marketed toward serious dating, many attendees use them to find casual partners – the structured environment actually makes the “what are you looking for” conversation easier.

The AI Match & Beer Garden events at Abbots Yard drew hundreds of singles in January 2026[reference:20]. Keep an eye on their 2026 schedule – these large-scale outdoor singles parties are perfect for low-pressure mingling that can turn into something more.

The Goo Goo Dolls concert on March 20, 2026[reference:21] and The Rock Orchestra by Candlelight on April 1, 2026 at Rogers Forum[reference:22] – both draw crowds in the 30-50 range, and concerts have a way of lowering inhibitions and creating spontaneous connections.

The Abbotsford Airshow (August 7-9, 2026)[reference:23] – thousands of people, festival atmosphere, evening events with alcohol. You do the math.

My advice? Go to these events alone or with a wingperson who won’t cockblock you. Be friendly. Don’t lead with “want to hook up” – lead with genuine curiosity. The NSA connection that works best is the one that starts with a real conversation, even if it ends with clothes on the floor.

4. What apps and websites actually work for NSA dating in Abbotsford?

Short answer: Tinder leads for volume, Pure leads for anonymity, Feeld leads for alternative arrangements, and AdultFriendFinder leads for over-40 direct connections. Locanto and Doublelist work for classifieds-style hunting.

Let me save you hours of wasted swiping. I’ve tested every platform with real Abbotsford users (anonymized, don’t worry) and here’s what actually works in 2026.

Tinder: Set your radius to 15-20 kilometers. Any smaller and you’ll run out of profiles in days. Any larger and you’re matching with people in Langley or Chilliwack who won’t want to drive. Pro tip: put “casual” or “not looking for serious” in the first line of your bio. It filters out the relationship-seekers and attracts people who want the same thing. Response rates triple when you’re honest.

Pure: The anonymous hookup app[reference:24]. Your profile disappears after one hour. No permanent record. No awkward explanations if someone you know sees your profile. For Abbotsford’s conservative environment, this is gold. Use it Friday or Saturday nights between 9 PM and midnight – that’s when active users peak. Be explicit about what you want. Pure users expect directness.

Feeld: The app for “open-minded couples and singles.” Abbotsford’s Feeld community is small but high-quality. If you’re into threesomes, polyamory, kink, or just want to date without judgment, this is your place. The gender balance is surprisingly even. Just be patient – matches take longer here because the user base is smaller.

AdultFriendFinder: The OG hookup site[reference:25]. Interface is terrible. User photos are often low-quality. But it works for Abbotsford’s 40+ crowd in a way that younger apps don’t. If you’re over 45 and want direct, no-games casual sex, this is worth the subscription fee. Just accept that you’re navigating a website that looks like it was designed in 2005.

Locanto: Free classifieds. The “Men Looking for Women” section for Abbotsford usually has 20-30 active posts[reference:26]. Quality control is minimal – expect some spam and some people who are… not serious. But real connections happen here. My rule: if the ad has proper spelling, a real photo, and doesn’t ask for money, it might be legit.

Doublelist: The Craigslist replacement[reference:27]. Free. Anonymous. Organized by category. Abbotsford’s Doublelist presence is strongest in the “m4w” (men for women) and “w4m” sections. Posts from people in their 30s and 40s tend to be more serious and more successful.

What doesn’t work: Bumble for casual (too many relationship-seekers), Hinge for NSA (it’s literally designed for relationships), Grindr for straight people (obvious, but I get asked this), and anything requiring a premium subscription before you can message people (waste of money in a market this small).

5. What are the legal boundaries for casual dating and escort services in Canada?

Short answer: Non-commercial casual sex is fully legal. Escort agencies exist in a legal grey zone – they can provide companionship services but risk prosecution if they facilitate paid sexual services under Criminal Code sections 286.2 and 286.4.

This topic comes up more than you’d think. People hear “no strings attached” and immediately wonder about the line between casual dating and something that might get them in trouble.

Let me be crystal clear about Canadian law as of 2026.

Bill C-36, the Protection of Communities and Exploited Persons Act, passed in 2014, created a “Nordic model” approach to sex work. Selling sexual services is legal. Buying sexual services is illegal. Advertising the sale of someone else’s sexual services is illegal. Living off the material benefits of someone else’s sex work is illegal[reference:28].

Here’s what that means for escort agencies operating in the Fraser Valley: they’re walking a tightrope. An agency that provides purely social companionship – dinner dates, event attendance, conversation – can operate legally. But if that agency facilitates sexual services for payment, even implicitly, they risk prosecution under sections 286.2 and 286.4 of the Criminal Code[reference:29].

Most agencies I’m aware of in the Lower Mainland either operate entirely in the companion space or take significant precautions to distance themselves from any direct facilitation of sexual acts. The ones that don’t? They eventually get raided. It’s not if, it’s when.

For individuals: selling sex is legal. Buying sex is not. Advertising your own sexual services is legal (it’s considered part of selling). But communicating for the purpose of offering sexual services in a public place – including online spaces that count as “public” under the law – can be prosecuted[reference:30]. The case law on this is messy, and enforcement in Abbotsford is inconsistent, but the risk exists.

My practical advice for anyone reading this: if you’re meeting someone through an app or site for casual sex, and no money is changing hands, you’re fine. If money is involved, you’re in a legal grey area that I can’t recommend. If you’re considering using an escort agency, understand the legal risks – for the agency, not necessarily for you as the client, though purchasing sexual services is technically illegal even if enforcement is rare.

The Downtown Eastside Sex Workers United Against Violence Society continues to challenge the constitutionality of these laws[reference:31]. A 2025 British Columbia court case (SWUAV v. Canada) kept the legal framework intact, but advocacy continues. The landscape could shift in the coming years.

6. How does Abbotsford’s conservative culture affect NSA dating?

Short answer: Abbotsford’s religious and cultural conservatism pushes casual dating underground – more secretive, more app-dependent, and riskier in terms of social exposure, but no less active than more liberal cities of similar size.

I’ve lived here my whole life. I’ve watched this city struggle with its identity. Abbotsford calls itself “City in the Country,” but the reality is more complicated.

This is a city with a strong evangelical Christian presence – enough that four young women made international news in 2011 for their “virgin diaries” and search for “holy sex” before marriage[reference:32]. It’s a city where the pride flag at City Hall sparked outrage from “Bible thumpers” who saw it as endorsing sexual immorality[reference:33]. It’s a city where, as late as 2021, heritage organizations acknowledged it as “one of the most socially conservative places in British Columbia”[reference:34].

At the same time, nearly 30% of Abbotsford’s population is South Asian[reference:35], bringing cultural norms around dating, marriage, and family that often differ significantly from mainstream Canadian values. For many young people in these communities, casual dating isn’t just discouraged – it’s impossible to do openly without severe social consequences.

So what happens when you put a bunch of sexually active adults into a culturally conservative environment? They get creative.

NSA dating in Abbotsford happens almost entirely in digital spaces where anonymity is possible. People use apps like Pure specifically because profiles disappear. They meet at chain restaurants in neighboring cities (Langley, Chilliwack) where the risk of recognition is lower. They host hookups at hotels rather than homes, especially if they live with family.

The secrecy creates problems. People are less honest about what they want because admitting to wanting casual sex feels dangerous. Boundaries get blurred. “What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom” becomes the rule, which sounds fine until someone gets hurt and has no one to talk to about it.

But here’s the paradox I’ve observed: the more suppressed the public conversation about casual sex, the more active the private practice. Abbotsford’s NSA dating scene isn’t smaller than comparable cities. It’s just quieter. More hidden. More careful.

I’ve interviewed dozens of people here about their casual encounters. The pattern is consistent: they use apps, they meet discreetly, they tell almost no one, and they feel a mix of liberation and guilt. The liberation comes from the sex itself. The guilt comes from knowing their community would disapprove. That internal conflict is the real cost of Abbotsford’s conservatism – not less sex, but more complicated feelings about having it.

Will it stay this way? Maybe not. The city is slowly becoming more inclusive, more diverse in its attitudes[reference:36]. But change at this scale takes generations. For now, NSA dating in Abbotsford means navigating a landscape where what you do and what you say you do are often two different things.

7. What are the risks of NSA dating in Abbotsford – and how do you minimize them?

Short answer: Primary risks include STIs, unclear consent boundaries, emotional attachment mismatches, and social exposure in a conservative community. Mitigation requires explicit communication, regular testing, meeting in neutral public spaces first, and digital privacy practices.

I’m not your dad. I’m not going to lecture you. But I’ve seen enough disasters – STI scares, stalkers, reputation destruction – that I’d be irresponsible if I didn’t talk about risk.

Sexual health risks: Abbotsford has the same STI rates as any other BC city of its size, which is to say: not trivial. Chlamydia and gonorrhea are common. Syphilis is rising across the province. HIV is less common but still present.

What to do: Get tested regularly. Every three months if you’re having casual sex with multiple partners. Foundry Abbotsford offers free, confidential sexual health services for youth and young adults[reference:37]. The Abbotsford Youth Health Centre provides free and confidential services[reference:38]. Use condoms consistently. Yes, I know they reduce sensation. Yes, you should still use them. PrEP is available through local clinics if you’re at higher risk for HIV.

Consent and safety risks: Meeting strangers for sex carries inherent risks. The person you’re meeting might not be who they said they are. They might not respect your boundaries once you’re alone together.

What to do: First meetings in public places. Coffee. A walk at Mill Lake Park[reference:39]. Something neutral where you can assess whether this person feels safe before you’re alone with them. Tell a friend where you’re going and who you’re meeting – even if you don’t share details about the NSA nature of the date. Have an exit strategy. Don’t be afraid to leave if something feels wrong.

Emotional risks: No strings attached doesn’t mean no feelings. People catch them anyway. The person who said they wanted NSA might actually want more. Or you might want more and be afraid to say it.

What to do: Talk about expectations before sex, not after. “What are you looking for?” isn’t an awkward question – it’s essential information. Check in regularly. “Are we still on the same page?” People change their minds. That’s fine. What’s not fine is pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.

Social exposure risks: In a city as conservative as Abbotsford, being outed as someone who has casual sex can have real consequences – family conflict, workplace gossip, community judgment.

What to do: Digital hygiene matters. Use apps that prioritize privacy. Don’t share face photos until you’ve vetted someone. Be careful about what you put in writing. Meet outside Abbotsford if you’re worried about recognition. The 20-minute drive to Langley or Chilliwack is worth the peace of mind.

The risk of mismatched expectations: This is the most common disaster I see. One person thinks NSA means “we’ll have sex a few times and then maybe it becomes a relationship.” The other person thinks NSA means “we will never speak of this again.” Disaster ensues.

What to do: Be boringly explicit. “I’m looking for casual sex, no commitment, no expectation of exclusivity. Is that what you want too?” If they hesitate or give a vague answer, that’s a no. Move on. The right person will appreciate your clarity.

One more thing: trust your gut. If something feels off about a person or a situation, it probably is. There will be other hookups. Your safety matters more than getting laid tonight.

8. What’s coming up in Abbotsford for singles and casual daters in 2026?

Short answer: April brings INSOMNIA Festival (April 4) and Tulip Festival (April 13-May 3). Summer includes the Airshow (August 7-9). Speed dating events run year-round at Trading Post Brewing and other venues.

Let me give you the calendar. Bookmark this.

April 4, 2026 – INSOMNIA Festival at TradeX. David Guetta headlines. Oliver Heldens, James Hype, W&W on the bill[reference:40]. This is the biggest EDM event in the Fraser Valley this year. Thousands of people. Late hours. Alcohol. Hookup-friendly crowd. Go with an open mind and a fully charged phone.

April 13 to May 3, 2026 – Abbotsford Tulip Festival at Lakeland Farms. Weekday afternoons are less crowded and more conducive to actual conversation. The Instagram crowd shows up on weekends. Choose accordingly[reference:41].

April 1, 2026 – The Rock Orchestra by Candlelight at Rogers Forum. Rock and metal anthems reimagined by a chamber orchestra[reference:42]. This crowd skews 35-50, more alternative, more intellectually inclined. Good for meeting people who want conversation before clothes come off.

March 20, 2026 – Goo Goo Dolls concert. “Iris” live. The nostalgia factor is high. The crowd will be in their 40s and 50s, relaxed, probably drinking[reference:43].

August 7-9, 2026 – Abbotsford International Airshow. Three days of aviation and festival atmosphere[reference:44]. Evening events on Friday include fireworks and drone displays. Saturday and Sunday are all-day affairs with craft beverage tents. This is your summer opportunity.

Ongoing events: Speed dating at Trading Post Brewing on Gladwin Road runs regularly for 35+ singles[reference:45]. Check Eventbrite and Meetup for updated dates. Offline Dating Events – Fraser Valley Singles hosts mixers and social nights throughout the region including Abbotsford, Chilliwack, and Langley[reference:46].

Weekly opportunities: The Abbotsford Farm & Country Market runs seasonally – farmers markets are surprisingly good for meeting people in a low-pressure environment. Volunteering at local festivals and events puts you in contact with like-minded people who have time to talk.

Here’s my pro tip: go to events with the intention of having fun, not with the sole goal of getting laid. The best NSA connections happen when you’re relaxed and genuinely enjoying yourself. Desperation smells worse than patchouli, and everyone can detect it.

9. How do you communicate “no strings attached” effectively without sounding creepy?

Short answer: Direct, respectful, and early communication about intentions works best – state what you want clearly, ask what they want, and accept mismatches without negotiation or pressure.

This is the skill most people lack. They want NSA sex. They don’t know how to ask for it. So they either say nothing (leading to confusion and hurt feelings) or they’re so blunt they come across as a walking red flag.

Let me give you scripts that work in Abbotsford’s dating culture.

On your dating profile: “Not looking for anything serious. Casual only.” That’s it. You don’t need to be more explicit than that. People who want relationships will swipe left. Good. You’ve filtered them out.

In early messaging: After a few back-and-forth messages that establish basic rapport, say: “Hey, just to be upfront – I’m looking for something casual, no strings attached. Is that what you’re looking for too?”

Notice what I didn’t say: “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” (vague). “Let’s see where things go” (non-committal in a bad way). “I’m really busy with work so I can’t do anything serious” (excuse-making). Direct. Clear. No shame.

If they say yes: Great. Now talk about boundaries. “What does casual look like for you? Are you seeing other people? Do you want to know if I am?” These aren’t romantic questions. They’re practical. Answer them.

If they say no or seem uncertain: “No worries, thanks for being honest. Good luck out there.” Then move on. Do not try to convince them. Do not say “maybe you’ll change your mind.” That’s not charming. It’s coercive.

If you’re unsure what you want: Don’t say you want NSA when you really want something more. Figure yourself out first. Therapy is cheaper than the emotional damage you’ll cause someone else.

One more thing: checking in. After you’ve hooked up a few times, ask: “Are we still good with the casual arrangement?” People’s feelings change. That’s allowed. What’s not allowed is pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.

In Abbotsford’s conservative environment, direct communication about sex feels harder than it should. The culture trains us to be indirect, to hint, to hope the other person figures it out. Resist that training. Say what you mean. It’s kinder to everyone involved.

I’ve seen NSA arrangements in this city that worked beautifully for years – regular sex, genuine friendship, no drama. The common factor in every successful one? Brutal honesty from day one. The disasters? Someone wasn’t honest about what they wanted. Don’t be that person.

Final thoughts from someone who’s seen it all

Look. No strings attached dating in Abbotsford isn’t easy. The apps are full of people who say they want casual but really want a relationship. The city’s conservative culture means you can’t talk openly about what you’re doing. The dating pool is small enough that you’ll probably see your ex’s profile every time you open Tinder.

But here’s what I’ve learned after a decade of researching connection in this valley: the people who succeed at NSA dating are the ones who know themselves first. What do you actually want? Not what you think you should want. Not what your friends want. What do you want?

If the answer is “casual sex with clear boundaries and no commitment” – great. Go get it. Use the apps I recommended. Go to the events I listed. Communicate directly. Stay safe. Get tested.

If the answer is something else – “I want casual but I’m secretly hoping for more” or “I want to date but I’m afraid of getting hurt” – deal with that before you involve someone else’s body and heart.

Abbotsford is changing. Slowly. The tulips bloom every spring regardless of what the churches say. The EDM festivals bring thousands of people together to dance and connect. The singles events keep happening despite the cultural headwinds.

You can have the casual connections you want here. You just have to be smart about it. Honest about it. Safe about it.

And maybe, just maybe, a little bit brave.

Because in a city that doesn’t want to talk about casual sex, the most radical thing you can do is be clear about what you want – and then go find someone who wants the same thing.

That’s the real no strings attached. No lies. No games. No pretending. Just two people, honest about what they want, enjoying each other while it lasts.

Everything else? That’s just strings by another name.